How to be the perfect guy

What amounts to a perfect guy? This is not the question you should ask ur male buddy over a cup of joe or teh tarik in ur fav mamaks. This is a question u ask the ladies.

Trust me when i say this, no one knows what a girl wants other than the girl herself. And here I am giving u, dear male readers the ultimate guide to being the most sought after guy in town.

1. Be sensitive, but never be too sensitive.

We need a guy to understand how emotional and fickle v girls could be but we don't need a guy to cry with us or get over touchy feely whenever v talk about the emo stuff. It makes us feel creepy about the whole thing. Make is short and simple that you u understand what's going on and u are always available to help but do not start telling your own sob story or share ur own emo state.

2. Please dress up.

When we say we don't really care about how you look, please consider that again. We lied. Who would ever walk out with a guy wearing slippers and tennis shorts and a shirt that's a size too small when we can go out with a fashionably correct guy? Don't get me wrong, I'm not telling u to go change ur whole wardrobe and get some new hot trends. I'm telling u to dress appropriately according to the situation. Make yourself feel comfortable without being too shabby.

3. Be a handy man once in a while.

Some ppl may say you're taking advantage but I call it being an opportunist. V girls love it when u offer ur help. Be it that you are giving us a ride "and I do mean a literal ride in ur car, naughty naughty" or even coming over to help carry the heavy bag of groceries.

4. Be polite.

No no no, not the politically correct speech u use when u address an important situation or business meet up. V really don't like it when u get all smart ass and start passing comments about things. Be the gentleman and say nice things. V are ladies, v like sweet things.

5. Keep ur promises.

Please put this as the first thing in ur mind when u want to bag a girl home. When u say ur going to be there please be there. V take it seriously when u say ur going to do something. It might mean very little to you but we are women. We may link ur bad behavior to the future we might/ might not have with you.

6. Sometimes, act cute too.

V are lying when v say we don't like guys acting cute in front of us. Come one, who could resist a cute guy making puppy dog eyes at us when they want something? That's like the next best thing to getting a good ice cream cone.

7. Please do not be a stingy cat or a spend thrift.

We don't really like it when v find out vr going out with someone that seems to ask us to split the bill or ask us to pay everything. Like Chris Rock says "to ask a girl to use her purse totally dries up the pus*y. It's like the purse is directly linked to a girl's pu**y." You shouldn't be a spend thrift too. If u are, v may link u to a bad savings account and the fact that u might have debts.

Next best and most important thing, when v grumble pls listen. Vr not good with trying to relate what we want to say sometimes. We just want you to listen and show that you are paying us some attention. It means a lot to us.

Anyway, until the next time, dear readers.

(Pictures courtesy of other fellow bloggers and dating sites)

My misunderstood Hometown=)

As some of you may know through FB or because u know me personally, I am from Seremban. I wouldn't call it a very well developed place. However, it does give the mixed aura of being a half developed city. If there were such things as a third world classification for a town, my town would be that.

There aren't many big shopping complexes or tall ass buildings there but those that are there prove sufficient. Besides, due to the 45 minute ride to KL, most of my town people would travel to work in KL and come back to stay in Seremban. Maybe because the cost of living in my hometown is lower compared to KL.

The first few things that come to a person's mind when u tell them seremban are stereotypically limited to a few options...
1. " Ohhhhh.....I see..."

2. "Ohhh...Seremban Siew Pow!"

3. "Ohh...Seremban Crab"

4. "Ohhh...PD..."

5. "Huh? Where?"

Let's see...talking about food...well aside from the famous listed Seremban Siew Pow which has been commercialized, v locals do love them but v almost always go to the same traditional bakery whenever v want a siew pow or tart. Asia Siew Pow. Its been there for decades. N the taste...Magnificent!

Next v have Yi Poh Lo Shu Fun.Coincidentally, its situated directly opposite Asia Siew Pow. This is a good place to chill out before u head back to ur destination after buying some siew pow.

N yes...when u come too Seremban never miss out Hakka Mee.Especially Tow Kee Hakka mee.This owner has a weird complex as he likes to take time diddling with the noodles which means it takes time. If ur the type that can't wait, u won't like this shop. However, to me, good things come to those who are patient so I'd wait if I were u. Besides, this guy is my mom's childhood friend, so he always gives us good service. If u come to Seremban next time, look us up then^^

One more good place to go...NGAU LAM FEN!!!! Beef noodles to be direct haha. You should never miss this. If u know where the morning market in Seremban is, u'll know where to find it. Second floor of the morning market. Another one of my mom's friend. U see, they're all from the same "Kampung" or village as u may call it.

There are so many good food in Seremban that it would take a few posts just to mention them. I'll make sure I do that the next time I go back...which is tonight^^

PS-pictures courtesy of wonderful fellow bloggers that have been to seremban...thanks y'all!

By the way...PD is not inside seremban...so don't make that mistake.

Adios readers!

Appreciate Life...

Life just passes us by so fast, don't you think, readers?

It was almost as if the past few years of your life passed by with just a few blinks of your eyes. One day you're 12 and now suddenly ur getting older and you don't know what just passed you by.

We should all appreciate life. Too many of our moments that v passed by without actually stopping to enjoy it or treasure it. That second that passed you by will never come back. Why would you want to waste it feeling sad or emotional over things that you couldn't possibly change?

Y not appreciate more of the finer things in life and let those pain and sorrow go?

Because life is just so beautiful to waste it being unhappy. Be happy, dear readers.

We should always keep a mental list of things that v find happy about.

Here is a list of things that I usually notice and keep in mind when I live through everyday.

1. I have a family caring for me, whilst some are born without parents or siblings. They only come once in a lifetime, tell them u love them when u can. As time passed, you might not have the same chance again.

2. I have great friends that helped me pass my time when I'm having my ups and downs. That would be better than not having anyone and be by ur own all the time.

3.I appreciate the fact that when I look at my mother's wrinkles, that she is still there and I could hug and annoy her when I want to, just to see her smile when treat her nice.

4. I appreciate the fact that my boyfriend is taller than me n whenever I want to hug him, I have to stand on tip toes to do it.

5. I appreciate the fact that when it rains, the sun will always shine the brightest after that.

6. I appreciate the fact that when I don't do as well as I should now, I could always have a chance to make the best out of the next try.

7. I appreciate the fact that when I don't have as much as some may want, I have enough to sustain myself through hard times.

8. I appreciate the fact that when i'm not in my ideal weight, it gives me another goal in life to meet. Life would be so meaningless without purpose.

9. I appreciate the fact that when some people may not like n criticize me...I have so many other good friends that understood and helped me through bad times. You live for your own self, never for others.

10. I appreciate the fact that I am me, and that will never lose my sense of direction in life, because nothing is more important to know that as long as you are you, there will always be an ability to surprise yourself with your own strength.

I am sure you, dear readers have lots more things to be appreciative about. Start making a mental list today for ur self and start appreciating life because you never know until it passes u by.

Some situations where you go =.=!!!

There are situations in your life where you just go =.=!!!
You know those times don't you?Like when you said something or was in a situation where you wanted a real answer or some guidance n ur partner takes u "not so seriously"

Yep that kinda situation.

There are no words to describe that kinda situation other than just this =.=!!!

Here are the situations which I have encountered...

1. I asked my friend "Hey, do you like spongebob?"

My friend "You know what?I really hate watching brainless cartoons n stupid talk shows where they don't mean anything."

Me =.=!!!! What does that have to do with liking spongebob?

2. I told my boyfriend, "Hmm I forgot what's the name of the group that 50 cent belonged to.

Usually rappers they will have their own group,"

My boyfriend "Hey maybe its One Dollar, u know cos 50 cent is more famous, the rest of the group will all have 10 cent shares, hahaha"

i'm like =.=!!! Good imagination Dan!

3. I told my mom, "ma I'm coming back on thursday night,"

My mom said "Ya Saturday right?"

"Ma thursday..."

My mom said "Ya ya Saturday.."

Me ... =.=!!! Mom, you don't wanna see me that early right?Just admit it...

4. I told my friend, "Eh ur dress damn cun wei, so how much is it?"

My eager to brag friend replies..."Oh ya lo...I bought from DKNY, u know la all those materials that you buy from those CIPLAK places are "XYZ" so that's why I buy from branded places most the time..."

Me =.=!!! halooo I just asked how much was it...

5. A 5 feet freelancer n I having a conversation 5 years ago..."No lo, I'm just doing this agent a favor only...I usually don't do 200 ringgit jobs one...I only do fashion runway n modeling."

I stared at her... "huh really ah?" SHE IS 5 FEET tall.

Then she fumbled for words and saved herself by saying "Oh I just do those modeling runway that are for shorter models."

Me =.=!!!

6. Some random chick walking past with her boyfriend by the toothpaste aisle where I was walking tgt with my boyfie...
She gave me a look and then turned to her boyfriend declaring loudly, "Cheh, not very pretty also what.."

Me =.=!!!

Hv u encountered any of these situations n would like to share with me?Ur most wlcm to^^

Am so sorry for the broken english and weird slangs. I thought I should insert elements of the Malaysian English to make it a little more realistic for my asian readers^.~

Til the next time my dear readers^^

My Love Letter to U,Belle...

Hey Belle,mommy finally finished her exams=)

U've been gone for more than a month. I always thought that time heals all pain. The pain in my heart never goes away. Ur the most special dog I've ever had. N u'll continue to be in my heart. For those who've never had a dog in their lives...they'd never understand the pain that dog lovers go through.

I have to see u go through ur whole life as a puppy,a junior, an adult n finally I didn't even get to say good bye to u when u passed on. That is something I'll regret until the day I die.

U've been with me for 12 faithful years. U wait for me all the time. I can see how happy u were whenever I come back n call u my baby girl. I personally trained u,slept with u in the same bed and went through the most unforgettable experiences of growing up tgt with u. I got u when I was 13. N I lost u now. U've seen me at my best. U've also been there for me at my worst. But I wasn't there for u when ur at ur worst. Somehow, ppl tell me ur a dog. Dogs just go earlier. Try as I may to make it sound reasonable, I couldn't get myself to think that way. When I lost u, I didn't just lose a dog...I lost a friend. Nobody has ever touched my heart the way u did. U can always get over a heartbreak caused by a loved one, a boyfriend, or even ur fiancee...but u can never get over guilt, never get over true love with someone who has touched ur heart. N that is exactly what Belle was to me. I lost my best friend. I can get over an abusive ex fiancee, a cheating boyfriend or even the harshness of reality from fake friends n an empty pocket because those are things that I could mend...those are things that I could fix n heal. But losing u made me lose my identity as ur best friend. I'm at my peak when u were alive. Losing u made me want to perform even better than I did before. Because whenever u were there, u always had a way to encourage me although u didn't know u were doing just that. But it's hard. It's so hard without u here with mommy Belle.

I kept a list of drafts in my messages that I typed in whenever I thought of u. Because I don't really want to talk about u to anybody until my exams are over. Guess this is just the way I am. I can laugh, joke, smile and show my happy facial expressions to anybody when I grieve. I just don't want to talk about it. Because I knew if I started I could never stop. A floodgate of tears will start. I'm amazed by myself...because when my friends asked me, are u really okay cos i saw ur post on fb saying ur grieving...u don't look like ur grieving to me.

Well what can I say...I just don't like to talk about it when it's someone I really love. How would u understand?

The things that I wrote when I missed u...

1. I really miss Belle a lot. Today I noticed that I subconsciously wrote down her name in a past year question paper that I was answering where the victim's name was Nell. I wrote there Belle.
2.When I rode the LRT I thought of u.
3.When I smile at others,inside I'm so very sad because ur not there anymore.
4.I regret saying I had too many dogs on Cah's wall.In reality,I only want one dog for the rest of my life and that's Belle.Just u.I love u belle.I miss u so much.
5.I saw a cat today,n it reminded me of u belle.U were so small that u were afraid of cats.I just miss u so much.
6.I'm so scared I'll forget u belle.I'm thinking lesser of u today.

7.I thought of u before I sleep tonight.I've been trying to suppress my feelings but my heart still aches when I thought of u, baby girl.
8.U've seen me at my worst n at my best. Mommy's so sorry because I've never been able to show u how much I love u other than trouble u n bring u everywhere I go. I have to put u home where I cant get to see ur last moments.
9.When I don't talk about u doesn't mean I've forgotten about u.Mommy promised that mommy will do my best in my exams.I will keep that promise.Mommy loves u.
10.I don't want to forger u belle.Give me courage to go through my exams.I believe u are blessing me from the skies.

11.I thought of u everyday.

12.I dreamt about u today.I couldn't remember what the dream was about but I knew u were in it.

13.Last night I had a fit because I fought with Dan. I thought I was over ur death but I was just suppressing my thoughts. Whenever I felt sad or happy,the only thing I thought about was to hv u to hug.because u love me.Like no one else could.
14.I know its impossible,but I just want u to come back belle.I want to know there is a heaven,so that I know I will meet u there when its time.V will be tgt and play tgt.

15.Seeing the tiger reminds me of u belle.Mommy loves u so much.
16.Mommy's sorry she had to grow up...

I love u belle.N that will never change.U touched my heart.I'll meet u one day when the time comes.N v will be happy once more.In a place where there will be no loss.No unhappiness.Only tranquility.

The face of horror in China

I'm not sure whether u guys have heard of the profitable venture of selling bear bile in China. Apparently it has medicinal values.

I personally think this is the most inhumane practice ever by anybody who wants to make a profit.

Let me explain to you that these bears are alive as they are hooked to machines having their bile sucked out and processed. Most of them have their paws chopped off to be served as dishes in the black market.

This is a horrific practice in China and it was recently exposed by the media that the woman who has made herself rich by doing this is this BITCH!

She has appealed to the government in China to make this business a listed legal venture. If u dear readers are against this, do help share this post to create and awareness and help stop animal cruelty.

Ps this is a post that was urged to be shared by my Mom.